Since the start of the year, I’ve been having weekly sessions with a business and personal coach, and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made in the last 6 months. Hiring someone to help me figure out where I’m going and how I’m getting there – it’s taken such a weight off my mind and given me more purpose.
I went away for a few days last month and Karen gave me homework to complete before our next goal-setting session. (And then I passed that homework on and told you lot to do some too – see here if you missed it!)
She asked me to write a letter, imagining that the date was 10 years in the future. I was to write this letter to a friend I hadn’t seen in all that time, telling them what I’d been up to. Where I’d lived, what had happened in my business, where I’d been on holiday etc etc.
I found it really tough to get started, and ended up writing about the problem I felt I was having at the time, but once I’d got that out I actually then wrote about how I solved it (this was now getting into the future bit). Having got past that block, I was away, writing about all these amazing big steps I’d taken in my business and how at the end of the 10 years I was just about to step back from the day-to-day running of it all and spend my time travelling the world, living in any of the multiple houses I’d bought. I wrote about personal things; home, my relationship with my wonderful man Blake, and my most-wanted desire of being financially free so we can spend our time doing whatever we want.
Once I’d finished it, I cried.
I was sitting on the edge of a concrete breakwater overlooking Cardigan Bay with the sun on my back, tiny snowflakes swirling around me and only the sound of the sea in my ears, and the tears just kept running down my face. You know what, I’m almost off again now, just writing about it! Sniff…
The reason I was so upset was because I’d actually written down my dreams. Writing them down was like admitting that they were real, that they matter to me, and that was really hard for me because I’m such a positive, content person. I don’t want to be unhappy, in fact it’s very difficult for me to stand it, so I find a way to make pretty much any situation I find myself in one I can be content with. Either that, or I get out of it altogether. But when you admit to yourself that you want things, you really want these rather big things, then it opens you up to worry and pressure and the disappointment you’ll feel if you don’t achieve them. See, if you don’t want much, then there’s far less chance of being disappointed.
But there was no going back – I’d written it down, so there it was. My dreams. Out there.
There was another crying session when Karen and I sat together to work this letter into a year-by-year goal plan, and boy did I feel silly! But after a few days when I’d got used to the idea of wanting some big things to happen, and having decided upon the very first step required in achieving any of them, I started to feel better. I’m not drifting so much any more – I know where I want to go, and believe me it’s much easier to figure out how to get there when you can see the end destination! I’m working on all sorts of things I wouldn’t have even considered starting yet had it not been for this letter, and I’ve realised that I’m the only person holding me back.
So…to pull this rather personal post back into something that can help you sell your house or move into the home you really want to be living in: how about you write your own letter. It doesn’t have to be 10 years in the future, but you can tailor it to suit the situation you’re trying to deal with right now. So if you’re trying to sell, I’d make it a one-year letter. Write it, and then work through it to figure out what you’ve got to do to get there.
I promise you that just the process of writing it down will help you to move closer to achieving whatever you want. Trust me – I now know that to achieve my dream, I’m buying a house every year for the next 10. Better get started then!!
If you’re interested in your own coaching session, Karen is absolutely brilliant and her website is at http://www.kccoaching.co.uk/Home.php Tell her I sent you!